Dear Tracey,
My reaction to your dream was pretty close to what you posted :)
Sandy is such a significant part of your life that what she has shared with you is already part of you. She is a part of your self. Grief lifts with time and what remains is the most enduring testimonial...in our hearts, our words and our actions.
You are trying to be strong for Sandy. :) Take some time to deal with your feelings as well, perhaps with someone not too close to the situation who will listen & let you vent. Actually it may allow you to be more comfortable if you dont have to worry so much about keeping your emotional gaurd up, let off some of the pressure & you can probably be more in the "present" for you & for Sandy.
A close relationship with a mother in law is quite a blessing that not everyone experiences. Think that says a great deal about the two of you.
peace & joy,
holobon
