I just popped in here for the first time in a few months, to make my own post, and saw yours. My deepest sympathies for your loss, it is so sad. It is hard these days to "see the Earth as whole" when there is so much violence. But we keep trying, don't we, in the midst of our grief?
I will breathe peace into my heart, deeper and stronger, to honor your friend's son.
Blessings,
Aronaya