Gail,
Buy white/yellow/green... they go with everything!
The "2" he felt during the meditation was obviously the older grandchild.
There is a reason for all our choices, remember. Your girls are living their karma, which may or may not reflect your choices.
Part of your lesson (and your husbands') may be in cutting some of your own cords that say you know what is best for your girls. You might, but they have to learn.
I sense a lot of pain on your part, as well. Perhaps forgiveness/reiki to the situation for all of you is the order of the day...?? You and you husband could do it together...??
Blessings,
Priestess