Namaste Cachet
It is such an emotionally hurtful situation, but such a common one too. A case of divided loyalties. When a child marries be it daughter or son, they then owe loyalty to their new partnership which can create just such a fractious situation. Perhaps the fact that your hubby picked up her her energy mean's that she is sending out a silent plea for reconcilliation. (Pride is such a mug, isn't it?:( )
Mmaybe when the child(ren) is born there will be an opening for you all?
I do hope things work out, as I feel this experience goeos deeper than may it may seem at first glance.
LL&L jonjo