Helen,
Our 'brain' or 'personality' or 'ego', are all part of the learning process in a path to our soul, or the healing of that part of the soul which our bodies encompass. It is the part of the soul that has chosen to 'heal'. When we get past the point of listening only to the brain, and ask our soul what it needs to heal, the message becomes altogether different. A point of actual growth comes when the brain and the soul are working together for complete healing. When they actually become focused on the reason for being on this earth, and blend......well. ...... That is the place that we truly want to be.
When we truly stop our decision making process that is going on only with the personality/brain/ego. Ask "what will make me truly happy-long term"?. The answer(s) become more apparent. Immediate gratification may not be the highest answer, or it might, depending on the choices..........and the intent... Love and Light......Priestess