Greetings,
I know this is a late response to this message but I wanted to say a few things about forgiveness.
To begin with you have to understand that your friend was right that you aren't the only one with problems. She probably had some personal stuff going on, and you have to ask yourself whether in your personal turmoil you were noticing anything about her and what she was going through. (Now note, that doesn't excuse her being rude.)
Secondly, we have to recognize that everyone suffers, and that when we suffer one of three things happen ---
* we lash out and hurt others (what this woman did)
* we dig our head in the sand, and hurt ourselves
* or we learn compassion, and GROW UP
The BEST thing you can do is to meditate on your relationship with this woman. In Tibetan, we call this tong-len...
1. Think of your friend, at her best. Being very nice and kind to you. Being so helpful. Think about any pain she must be going through, and visualize yourself taking on her pain, and experiencing it. Develop great compassion and love in your heart for her, and imagine it being exhaled with your breath, and covering her with loving light.
2. Think of your friend, when she is annoying or not as nice, but still not mean. Understand deeply how she must be suffering, and visualize yourself taking on her pain and experencing it. Develop great compassion and love in your heart for her, and imagine it being exhaled with your breath, and covering her with loving light.
3. Think of you friend, at her meanest. Think about how her actions are brought about her own suffering, and her own ignorance, and about how she will bear the horrible price for the suffering she causes others. Resolve to help her, so that she never need act this way again. Visualize yourself taking on her suffering, and experiencing it. Develop great love and compassion in your heart, and visualize youself breathing it out as you exhale, and covering her with loving light.
In addition, meditating on ths second and third Reiki symbols (if you are a Reiki II or better) can help, though you shouldn't try to use them if you haven't received Reiki II.
Good Luck,
Pema Ledrub
