Dear Voodoodoll,
I enjoyed reading your post. Im not sure about "where there is ego there can be no love". What person is without ego? We can look past our ego, push it aside perhaps but are we able to eradicate it while on the earth plane? Maybe that belief in itself is a trap of sorts, to believe that we have moved past the ego to the point that it is no longer there. Perhaps it is like other aspects of the self, we recognize it and go forward in spite of it?! :)
peace & joy,
holobon