eirelassye,
Hi.
You asked for suggestions so I had some.
I would say that without an 'analysis' one does not know the nature of the task one is facing, the energies involved, and how much we are the problem not the solution.
Simply asking for tools? Without some "analysis" one would not know whether to use a bigger hammer or a screwdriver or chain saw or a Q-tip??? Simply throwing more tools at a situation may only clutter things up. Olde trademan's saying: always use the proper tool for the job.
So, perhaps just a little oil is needed. Or a little less testosterone.
LOL
Cheers,
RC