Otoharo!
I can speak from experience on this one. I discovered many years ago, in fact at the time I first came on this board, that I am one who sucks other' energy via cords. I remember FK saying to me that I must ask permission first. Well, duh, I had no idea this was the case! Again this year, I learned that I have had cords in my friend who is also my soul mate (in the sense that we are a split of one soul). Again, I had no awareness that I did that and am more then eager to quit doing it! Thus, I routinely examine my energy field and cut cords whether they are there or not, just in case!
As a result, For a month or so, I felt , Well, I could not say how i felt. I simply did not know who I am. I seemed as nobody. I felt I had no indentity. My friend has helped me and I spend most of my days playing my music and writing more music. In music, I know me, I know who I am. this is healing me. In all creativity, we are simply ourselves. We can not be anyone else while being creative. that is why creativity is so important to a child.
Yes, you are right in asking what the other person feels. At the same time, you have no responsibility to that other person. You are solely responsible for you and you only. The characteristic of being human includes being self responsible.
finality
