Dear Coyotesong,
A wise man would not knowingly make remarks that made you squirm. Perhaps he isnt wise or just didnt realize that he would make you uncomfortable. There is often more behind people's actions than we can surmise ourself.
If you want to stay in the group then I agree you will have to tell him in private that you were uncomfortable. Since each individual has different boundaries, crossing over can be rather easy if one is not careful. ( I come from an era where children kissing each other in grade school was not a bad thing, nowadays that is apparently inappropriate!)
A RM is no different than anyone else, he/she is a human being.Hands on treatments require appropriate behaviour and respect at all times.
peace & joy,
holobon
