Thanks for all your responses.
Yes, I do believe he is anxious and acts out because he doesn't know how to deal with those feelings. Living in two homes has to be stressful for him, even though we generally try to reduce the craziness as much as possible. (My boyfriend and I try to make sure he has a fairly structured day.) He and I do have a bedtime ritual where he and I will spend a few minutes talking about whatever he wants to (with lots of hugs - he loves getting hugs from me) so maybe that is a good time for me to give him Reiki if he wants it. I have also beamed Reiki to him from the door of his bedroom once he's fallen asleep. Sometimes he does feel comfortable talking to me about issues, or things come out in other ways. I just try to be as attentive as possible and address things I am hearing privately with his father. I have to be careful because he is very sensitive to anything he perceives as being criticism of the arrangements or of his son's behavior.
I think I will try Reiki and see if it helps. As far as counseling goes, that is not my decision to make (I do think it is necessary, though.)
