I found that herbs helped some but lost effectiveness after awhile.
I had a particularly difficult 'transition' and actually lost my mind for awhile. (I'm not kidding, there were other contributing factors as it was also a very trying time in my life in other ways as well but I did go crazy for a couple of years)
Some people walk through it without to many difficulties some have more. I had more and my recommendation to anyone's spouse when this time comes is to buy a hard hat just in case.
:-))
Walk in beauty,
Rebecca