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re: Reiki and bullies

posted at 11/6/2006 1:40 PM - (There are 5 messages in This Topic)
ID# 94410
This is a reply to: 94394
eirelassey,

/*\ Namaste :-}}

- bullies come in all sizes, shapes, and modes

- a key factor is bullies persist because they are reinforced often enough for their bad behavior when others give way

- this is especially important in situations where the bully has no real power or authority over (in this case you)

- bullying supervisors and bosses are another class of folks - careful trodding and perhaps discrete fact gathering for a formal complaint to higher-ups can be fruitful (and also comes with some risk, of course)

- but for those everyday bully-types??

- for example, ever seen someone (whether really in a hurry or not) pull right up on the bumper of the car in front to get them to drive faster? That is a form of bullying

- some weeks ago, for example, I was driving the speed limit on a four-track road here on the way home - a pick-up truck with a young couple in it raced up and lodged themselves right on my bumper even though they had a lane to pass me if they wished

- I did not speed up - and, looking in my rear view morror I could see the driver smiling - so it appeared they were just being asses

- one way to discopurage this is to turn the headlights on and off quickly - this also flashes the tail lights, of course, and gives the impression one is hitting the brakes - when I did this the driver fell back briefly but resummed his tail-gaiting

- finally after about a mile or so he gave up and drove around me

- also, to show you what sort of jerks there are out and about - a couple of years ago a local physician wrote a letter to the editor or our largest daily rag and blamed the other driver for the fact that he got a ticket for tailgaiting - said that if the guy in front had driven faster............

- blimey!!!

>:-}}

- the morale? Don't be bullied. If self Reiki helps you with assertiveness? Fine. But I don't think Reiki can be used as a 'shield' in the way I think you are suggesting

- hope this helps

Reiki All Around,

All Blessings,

Firekeeper