Bless you all for chiming in on this important subject! It has just confirmed what I have felt led to do for quite some time.
The key for me is "change from within". I liked the comment about "their rules". I'm comfortable with being affiliated with a church. While it does not govern my every move, (or all of my doctrinal beliefs, for that matter) it does provide a venue for me to worship God with like-minded people. Churches are not perfect because they are made up of people who are not perfect.
With that said, I will share here for the first time what I believe I am being asked to do. I will begin work on a book that will be accepted by evangelicals (the faith I am affiliated with), that will speak "their language" and "play their game", but will also challenge their beliefs regarding the role of women in their churches, homes and communities. All I have been given so far is the title, but it's a powerful one.
The Feminine Face of God
Wish me luck! :-)
Herbmom