Hi Rich
I feel you have 'tagged' onto my message to Feather brilliantly. On this occasion I felt I had written enough but you added to the subject most appropriately. My best mate also a retired Police Officer 'lost direction' hit the booze upon retirement (which included the male menopause) had a stroke and is now paralised down one side whilst perminately hospitalised. He was 56yrs at the time.
To Feather:-
Perhaps you could encourage your husband to share some of your interests. This may not be easy - I dont know. What i do know is that depression is a nasty business. I experienced this illness in my forties but it wasn't the male menopause that caused it. Upon retirement and off medication the temptation to laze about and moan about life was strong. Booze makes depression worse in the long run and having learnt my lesson earlier in life I havn't walked that road again. Ive found purpose in involving myself more in Spiritual matters ie Reiki. I also help an aged neigbour with her gardening whilst giving my wife the rest of my attention due to her recent illness. Perhaps thats an answer - encourage your husband to help others, maybe charity work. this can give a man a real buzz and make him feel he is of worth again. Good luck.
Light and Wisdom
geoff (tree) PS if your husband wants to e-mail me anytime thats fine. GeoffRINGHAM@aol.com
