Dear Sherry, Although I understand what you are going through, I think you are having a bigger problem and dilemna than I ever had. I don't know what your brother suffers from, except that I understand it is extremely serious. Is there an association of families of people suffering from the same disease? In Europe there is one almost in every country for people suffering from Parkinson's disease and their families can get help. We did not use their services because we talked a lot about all this between us and I must say my mother changed a lot and accepted what we were saying and tried hard. I still believe that the Reiki helped us all.
What I think people in cases like yours need most is a 'holiday' from the situation. When my father was very sick and could not be left alone (but he did not suffer from any life threatening disease, except his heart), we managed to send our mother on holiday and stayed in turn with him - a very difficult task as I found out! I know that some people find it difficult to trust someone else. Would it be possible for someone (a nurse?) to come and help a few days a week? while your mother is there, then maybe after a while she might see that this person is good and can be trusted, they might develope a good relationship and she might relax a little bit.
Hmmm, here I go again, trying to help without really knowing anything. Typical me... I better go and send some Reiki, it's probably more helpful.
Love and hugs and courage
Viviane
