She is your mother and surely she won't change now. Hear her out when she needs to speak. Say, "Yes Mom, you're right Mom." Because in her own way, she probably is. That doesn't mean you are impelled to act upon all her advice because you have your own path. Listen, process, and then act according to your best judgement.
My father used to get under my skin for many, many years. Only when I touched 30 did I learn to "accept" and adapt to him. He is still the same, but he doesn't pull my strings anymore. This has helped me to love him for what he is instead of pointing out what he isn't.
aum shanti
