The Hoboken Cafe 

Hey all, I know this isn't one big personals ad...but I just wanted to VENT. Has anyone had difficulty in breaking off a non serious relationship? I tried 3 times with someone. And I swear to GOd, it was like that Seinfeld episode where that woman wouldnt accept George's break up. It's ridiculous! WHat does one do?
So i ask everyone on the board again, do the single guys (who dont carry knives or guns and secretly dress as women--read--normal and maybe even cute???) go out on weekends? I would love to stumble across them!
Maybe you live in my building and need to borrow eggs? Or want to watch the Yankees perhaps win another World Series??

If I'm out in Hoboken on the weekends, its usually someplace with live music... I'm not much for the bar scene for the drinking alone, so I usually end up at Whiskey Bar, Maxwell's, Love Sexy or the Ristra(Rodeo). Small crowds and local bands give a bar a much more personal feel... I've never liked "big" places where I can get lost in, like Cadillac Bar.

im out and like to think i am normal. A lot of normal goes go north for the winter though. Nothing beats snowboarding all day and then hitting happy hour with friends

As for the ex, sometimes you have to be cruel to be kind. Manytimes people try to be very nice when breaking up and the other doesn't want to let go. If this happens just be blunt.

As for fun there's nothing better than slipping on the old dress, wig and pumps, sharpening the bowie knife, and grabbing the shotgun for a great weekend of hunting followed by pagen rituals. Anyone know where I can find a goat? We got a big weekend planned!

-Mike

giselashore said on 11/1/2001 11:31 AM

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>So i ask everyone on the board again, do the single guys (who dont carry knives or guns and secretly dress as women--read--normal and maybe even cute???) go out on weekends? I would love to stumble across them!
>Maybe you live in my building and need to borrow eggs? Or want to watch the Yankees perhaps win another World Series??

Question #1: Say something like this - I don't want to hurt you, but this relationship isn't working for me. I'm sorry, but it's over. If you have to, use the George Castanza line from Seinfeld - "it's not you, it's me."

Question #2: On Sunday's I usually go to Black Bear for football, a turkey club and a few Bass ales. Talk about healthy! It's a lively albeit mostly male crowd. Good for you, and, err, not so good for me.

By the way, I just ran out of eggs ; > }

What a coincidence, I have an over abundance of eggs! I know nothing of football, other than it bores me, but I do like to wake up late on Sundays and have a beer sometime during the day. Let me clarify on the topic...I am not even this guys girlfriend. The more we talk, or dont talk, the more I think it is wise to stop seeing each other. But I always feel so bad when its me doing the breaking off of things. I know its worse to be on the receiving end though, as a major relationship ended 7 months ago....but, no matter what i said, he ignored it! Like, I dont want to continue this anymore...he would say, "do you know i canceled plans to be with you on friday?" Ok, nice attempt at guilt...and then I would say I was sorry, but there was nothing more to say....and bam, emails like, whats up? how are you?
I am sort of like.....errrrrrrrrr........hellllloooo?
If you need to borrow eggs, by all means....

How could football bore you? It's such a great game. If I meet you at a Cafe event (i.e., movie night at my humble abode) I'd be happy to discuss the game with you and show you how truly great it is. At least you like beer. ;>) Moving on...

Don't let me repeat DON'T let guilt stop you. And don't apologize. It comes down to your happiness vs. his. You have to put yourself first. How about this: don't make plans with him and don't return his e-mails. Since he doesn't listen when you tell him point blank he'll get
the message eventually. No one can be that dense.

Ah, it's a shame when the ex can't take a hint. Every so often you have to say, "it's not me, it's YOU!"

I once dated someone who wouldn't go away- I had to tell her- and I quote: "you are a black hole of need, and I don't want to see you, hear you, or know of your existence any more." You have to push me pretty damn hard to get that kind of reaction.

Luckily, she took the hint.

I don't often go out in Hoboken, unless it's to Maxwells. But I'm not sure I'm what you'd call 'normal.' But I am unarmed...

I'll go out with you. i live in hooken. I'm cute and I like the Yanks. I was at Wed night's game.
Dinner, drinks the whole 9. I'm 28 and make pretty good money.
I can afford it. What do you say?
my email is brianproac@aol.com. let me know.

That was the most public AND forward invite ever!But here is a question: how do you know you would want to be seen with me? Perhaps I am horizontally challenged, with horrendous fashion sense. Maybe I am dumber than the day is long? But I will email you..cause the fact that you posted that very brazen response cracked me up!

That's funny. I've never heard of "hooken" before. I wonder if it's anything like Hoboken. :-)

Matt

billy said on 11/2/2001 11:52 AM

>I'll go out with you. i live in hooken. I'm cute and I like the Yanks. I was at Wed night's game.
>Dinner, drinks the whole 9. I'm 28 and make pretty good money.
>I can afford it. What do you say?
>my email is brianproac@aol.com. let me know.
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"Hooken" is the state of being single and looking, as in "hooken up in Hoboken."

:)

Gisela -
Are you really horizontally challenged????
If you think that I'll be uncomfortable being seen with you then we'll just go somewhere with dim lighting.
I doubt that you're dumb by the way you write.
I gave you a nonworking email address.
Shoot me an email to brianbrian111@aol.com
I'm glad you liked my email. Maybe tomorrow or Sunday night for game 7 at some bar. Why not, right?

Ah... And the dating game has started.

Funny, my post on this thread was here but I don't see.

My suggestion was that if the direct approach does not work, call the cops. If the cops don't work, call the mob. (Just kidding).

And, if Billy does not work out for whatever reason, it is no harm no foul. Billy is taking a chance right now. Worse case, you are back where you started. Likely case, you will be great friends. Best Case, you leave the single life with Billy. But, as you know, you will not be in any of these cases unless you try. And if it does not work out, I will go with you too. My e-mail is listed in the post.

No harm in trying, right?

Wow. What fun this is. I am not horizontally challenged. Tomorrow night is my birthday celebration. Anyone feel like Mulligans, that is where I will hopefully be around 11. Bringing the 24th year in with an Irish bang. My email is also listed, giselashore@yahoo.com.

sounds good. i'll drop by with my brother and do a birthday shot. i'll email you on your yahoo address. We'll figure out a way for me to spot you.

Single life...dating life....married life. Which of these is the best? Never been married, dating is rough. singledom is cool until you get to the fabricated holidays like valentines day. Modernization of dating is emailing and messages on chat forums. But hey, I am a modern girl. Let the emails roll in. warning: i do not respond well to cyber porn or psychos. I think thats the general consensus though!

when you're right you're right.

i just emailed your yahoo account.

answered the email. How does one talk to others that are online at the same time? Weird.
Dont take offense to this, I hope you are normal. Not like a flannel wearing hick that likes young girls, or a portly bald man that prays on women in their mid twenties?
No offense meant to any posters that fit those descriptions, but...a girl has got to be wary of cyber meetings ya know!

no offense. i'm normal.
i'll shoot you an email back to your yahoo acct in 5 min.

So sad, I didnt run into anyone from the boards on saturday. did you ppl have to sit home and watch the yankees get creamed? Oh well.

Maybe people did show up but you didn't know what they looked like? Sorry it didn't work out. I would have come out but was being a geek and working on the chat system. You should have come to Park Pastries yesterday. We has a small group, but it was fun (It's never boring when Steph is around :). We were all hungry so decided to get some real food and went to Aroma which I had not tried before. The food was pretty good, not amazing (though I got the Amazing chicken), but good.

Come out next week and you can start to put some faces to names.

-Mike

giselashore said on 11/5/2001 9:20 AM

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