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Looks interesting, I think it has smewhat to do with kundalini, and having muli-orgasmas for the man without ejaculation, also, on different ways to pleasure a woman because you can last longer. lol. I think I'll get it the next day I pass bookshop. There was an interesting exercise wher the man becomes aroused clenches his buttocks and shoots the energy up his spine, touches his tongue to his palate and the energy goes down to below navel to pool there.
If nothing else, it made me giggle.

Actually, I have been interested in picking this up. Mantak Chia also has a book devoted to women on the subject.
And there is another. I wanna say it is Sexual Refloxology? (not sure) but that book said to read the other two first lol.

Well it sur beats watching tv alone at night.lol. Not only are you getting your jollies off, your also enlightening yourself and giving yourself an energy workout all at the same time!
Had a nasty thought, what if there were an instructer who gave lessons and did demonstrations, and what if at the end of the lesson he said'well done class now practice your clenches'

Ehehehehe. My understanding of tantric practices is that it's not about the pleasure part, really. It's about building up and using the energy of sex and is more of a sacred thing, not "let's ..... for health and power".

One book I have has a section on it (never read a full book on the subject) mentions it is best to do this with a partner other than your significant other.

I'm at the state that the sight and thought of doing this stuff with a partner gives me the heaves. All joking aside, I'd be very embarassed and wouldn't know which way to point myself. I need help.

/*\ Namaste :-}}

- yes, and let us try not to use classic texts and practices as an excuse to be randy

>:-}}

- there are plenty of other venues for that sort of behavior

Reiki All Around,

All Blessings,

Firekeeper

well said firekeeper, and I ain't randy, just curious of the process. My off colour jokes and off-putting texts aside don't speak from experience. They come from too much time of thinking of these things and not enough doing. I have intamcy issues I guess and being with someone doesn't matter who, makes me freeze up. So this is my way of letting of a little steam. Here's a thought, why don't I make nice and do so somewhere else more appropiate. I think it's time to put this monologue to bed and try and forget anything I've done and said ever happened. I'll try and be more considerate in the future of others feelings.

Greetings,
All in all.. sex ought to be a relaxing experience and men ought not be overly concerned with holding ejaculation, or ejaculating as it could have a negative effect. It's good to attempt without much effort at anything new yet perfection is not the key here. Love ought to be..
peace,
prosperity

first off, you have to have sex with someone to enjoy the fruits of your labour, such as you describe. lol.
2nd, and no means least, to me sex is the icing on the cake, so to speak; It only comes 2nd to a loving realationship.
3rd, the methods so described in the book are I think something to do with spiritual development of a kind. They should not take precedence in a realationship to the determint of said realationship.

In other words, they're not the be all and end all,and only a means of expression.

In a nutshell, I have to agree.