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Ok, since I've been in Reiki, as well as my daughter, it was like we were released from a curse. I can walk around daily and feel confident, losses don't upset me. My artwork is crisp and glowing.

I am getting these dreams almost every weekend, never during the week. My ex is sitting there with others who want to make more trouble for me, its taunting verbal threats to make me look low class.
The dream intentionally portrays him as lower class, since he did slide down socially to hang out with carnival workers and people with no college background. I can't really figure out the message being sent, other than its a threat that they are still there.

His mother lives with him and dabbles in Runes and Stones she keeps in a big box. Shes not wiccian, shes solo and self styled by what she reads. The family therapist thinks a lot of havoc goes back to her, his own father was kicked out of the house by her and vanished and they called him low class. She had this attitude I was not good enough for her son and vocalized it constantly and as soon as I was gone she moved in with him. He never speaks, he has an avoidance disorder.

I set up some crystals on the window sill for protection because I think she is spinning something with these dreams. Its clockwork Friday or Saturday, same type of dream. Basically this dream message is that I am lower than a low class woman
and they just love telling me that.

In real life, I'm an art teacher with a Masters, my kids chose me over him, I have a nice aura. Frankly, I think its being sent, its not me, but I could be wrong, if so I will accept that.

nightbutterfly,

/*\ Namaste :-}}

- from a Jungian perspective these dreams could easily be showing influences of Shadow (we all have a Shadow - that dark side of the Unconscious)

- the characters in our dreams often being aspects of ourselves sometimes "dressed up" like people we know or just other symbolic characters

- what motivation would this woman have for sending you bad dreams (assuming this is something she can actually do)??

- also, it is curious that the dreams only come on weekends??

- you say, in part: "I can't really figure out the message being sent, other than its a threat that they are still there."

- this may reflect reality - you are out of the relationship, temporally, but obviously still worry that he and the influences he might have on you and the children have not disappeared (because he has not simply "disappeared") - and this may not be an easy fact to "get around" - so stuff gets expressed in dreams

- for myself? if the crystals make you feel better? Fine. But I would put the possibility of her sending bad dreams rather farther down on your list of priorities

- we cannot blame others for the workings of our Unconscious - we must own our own feelings

- hope this helps in some way

Reiki All Around,

All Blessings,

Firekeeper

Dear Nightbutterfly,
The greatest enemy of peace is our own thoughts and fears.
What "they" think is not as important as what you are thinking or linking your emotions to. No one has to send you a curse or a spell because you have cursed yourself. You have made them powerful in your life. Make up your mind to let them go & get on with your life.
From the book Psychic Self Defense: "However, we repeat, the ultimate solution is in the mind of the victim; until the weak spot attracting negative attention and thought flows is eliminated or balanced, the problem can not be properly dealt with".
Before going to bed:Try a warm salt bath, a calcium & magnesium supplement, relax your body & in your mind surround yourself with a cocoon of healing light that draws all that is positive to it & repells negativity, feel yourself glowing with this healing light. Say prayers for yourself & forgive your ex and his family & recognize that you are seperated from them. Call on your gaurdian angels for protection. Visualize a barrier around you that no ex can bypass. Acknowledge that you are a respectable educated talented woman. Believe that & if you dont, then examine why you are giving them so much power by letting their ideas influence you.

peace & joy,
holobon