The Reiki Cafe 

Morning all,

Today my mind keeps wandering to the destruction that blame brings to our lives. Do we ever see all the threads that connect to our finger pointing when we blame self or others?
The act of forgiveness frees us to get beyond those cords of negativity that keep us hostage. When I was younger, I believed that those who forgave others who hurt them were crazy...part of that philosophy was learned, part embraced through experience. The notion that cause & effect were enough & that actions have their own residual rebound had not settled into my philosophy then. As I age, I see more & more the wisdom in letting go of blame & the negative emotions attached to it. I have come to accept that blame does no good but it is very difficult to wipe out that response once learned & incorporated into life as a habit.

My hope is that each of us can find a way to embrace forgiveness & let go of blame. For what we do as individuals will eventually be felt in community. World healing begins with me.

peace & joy,
holobon

Dear holobon,

You go that right sister!

This happened to be one of the major lessons of my most recent Turning. The truth of what you say becomes more apparent as one gets older. As time and events of one's life unfold, more opportunities to lay blame pile up. Like it's close cousin Hate, Blame needs effort and energy to be maintained at the expense of the host. Like a lamprey clamped onto one's skull sucking essential fluids.

As I was swimming thru increasingly rough waters in the last 10 months, I became quite aware that I had I had better work on cutting such attachments. I could feel the pull of the briny deep from the wieght with no land insight.

To unwind the knots and cords of blame, often a measure of forginess of one's self loosens the other bonds of blame.

Namaste,
Michael

Namaste holobon,

so true!

Resentment eats us up from the inside and occupies every waking moment. It taints everything it touches. It is so liberating to let it go, to forgive and to be free......we each hold the key to our own prisons.

Blessings
Helen

Yes, we are happier if we spent our energy on fruitful things and events rather than destructive behaviours such as blame, hate and retaliation.

What comes from one person's mouth, heart or action does come back to that person.

I like what you have all said. They show wisdom and understanding of one's very own nature.

take care.