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hi dakota,
I quite agree & you,you got it accross very well (even this Aussie understood!!)
a lot of people have been 'TRYING' to end 'THAT' thread, I have,
YES, respect each others view & how we were taught....
all very well said :-} thankyou.
luv wendy ann xxx

PLEASE, please, please, don't start all over again on 'this thread'....
If I were in the 'same room' with someone that just keeps on & on & on with 'HIS' point of view as being the 'right' one...then I would SHOUT, & say, as I have about 4 times on the 'permission' thread, ENOUGH already,
I have my views & teachings, you have yours!!RESPECT PLEASE OK!........it's OVER..lets move ahead, pleaseeeeeeeeeee
luv wendy ann xxx

In general I agree with you.To be honest a few instances have got my temper flared. Originally i wasn't mad at one individual but have had it with them too. I do apologize for my part in the current disharmony of the boards, but at the same time i've got limits. Individual number 1 hit a sore spot right off the bat. Individual number 2 just kept grating to the point it finally did piss me off. In all honesty I can't in anyway claim to be acting in a spiritual fashion or saying that I am acting in a manner more hmm proper for a Reiki practitioner. It is my preferrence but not always my personal choice to be respectful. The whole staying calm thing, yeahh something i'm working on. It's long term.I do have a tendency to react rather harshly ( as has been evidenced in the past) when i percieve folks to be unwarrantedly rude in my direction.Right or wrong ( I vote wrong) it's not something that I see being rectified in the near future. It is of course not my wish to be chastised/ banned etc. In general I enjoy this forum. But there is the strong possibility that action will be soon coming.

Hi Conflagration,

I can see where you are coming from and can understand completely why you feel so angry. I have had my buttons pushed too over the last couple of days :)

I have decided to take a step back from the permission thread. I cannot help feeling that there is some deliberate 'baiting' going on, in which case the best response is no response. Hard to do and frustrating, but ultimately the best thing to do. Rob's advice is good advice 'respond instead of react'. I'm not sure I can do that right now, so I'm choosing to neither respond or react :)

Gentle Blessings
Helen

Gentle Blessings
Helen

How hysterical !

Me "Not very smart" even though I am a commercial director for the UKs leading outdoor management training facility with a salary package that would equate to roughly $175,000 USD , a published authour and a published artist ...hmmmmmm OK.

I think you might have missed the tone of my post dear boy.

No disresepct meant at all to Mike I thnk hes a legend for what hes doen here......censorship is the curse of a good forum...thats all.Must be allowed to have a view.

Just for today dont anger! Peachy I say!

Lots of Love
Gav

Will do!

Dear Tracey you are a darling...For all of you lovely calm people I will exercise the greatest respect and calm from now on.....watch this space thats all I can say. I try perhaps a little too hard sometimes

Gav!!!
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Conflagration

Lets have a big truce..OK. I am forever having to deal with interpersonal issues in my workng life as I run a management training company so I do knwo how communication can break down.....I dont think you get me and thats fine but my heart is in the right place I can assure you.

Please accept this post as a heartfelt SORRY for any bother that you mght have misconstrued ...

Big Up to Texas!

Gav

Hi Helen
It is quite easy. What you do when you see something that gets to you is that you walk away from the PC and take it out any anger etc on an inanimate object. You then laugh at it and come back and look at what got at you with objectivity.
Any reply that you then make is then hopefully done in calm and respectful fashion.

Another term for it, would be mindfulness.

If that fails then let rip LOL (Joking)

Namaste

Rob
Truth is not a property of language because language has not been able to express abstract ideas as efficiently as concrete items

Dear Rob,
So like, you have big holes in the walls or broken plates or squeeze the stuffing out of Tickle me Elmo or Barney or what have you? HeHeHe. Sorry, this post just got me laughing & I see a great comedy routine with Reiki practitioners all touchy feely & peaceful who go back to their homes & beat the stuffings out of their stuffed animals!! I know, I know, I have a sick sense of humour but it works for me....

peace & joy,
holobon

Hi Rob,

Ah yes mindfulness, that is definately something I still need to do a lot of work on :)

I like your anger management technique. Funny really a question that I was considering asking on the boards in light of the recent contentious thread, was how people handle their anger in a positve way. :)

Gentle Blessings
Helen

bagl

Now that's really funny :)))

I have that vision in my head too and I just can't get rid of it! I keep seeing teddy bears with sad faces and limbs missing! Now don't upset me or the bear gets it!! bagl

Thanks for the chuckle, it's lovely to see some humour again :)

Gentle Blessings
Helen

Namaste :)))

Regarding the handling of anger, My hubby and I will be married 19 years on Christmas Eve and we have never had a real fight, shouting match, etc. When we have disagreements we walk in opposite directions, do ur own thing for a bit then come back to center. We are then able to talk it out and see each others side of things. It is not always easy, grant you! I have to say I have thrown my share of things, LOL but not at him.

We just know that when words fly things are said that will be regretted later. Best to cool off first. Funny thing is that this is how our children see us and yet the first thing they do when upset is scream at each other:) Primal instinct?

Love to all, and it is nice to see energies returning that are pleasant. What have we learned here? ;)

Tracey

Hey Tracey,

Perhaps we have learned or have been reminded that we indeed are all different, some forgiveness, tolerance, compassion, the need to work with precepts and that we are only human and that we can begin again.
I too enjoy the more pleasant energies, they are much more healing aren't they?

So let's all step forward.

All blessings to everyone,

Donna

can I just ask....are you merlot as in the wine?

Hi Tracey,

It's wonderful to be able to do that :) You are right, things can often be said in the heat of the moment that although not really meant plant seeds of doubt and are never really forgotten.

I think there's a few lessons to be learnt here on which personally I'm still reflecting :)

Gentle Blessings
Helen

Hi Gav,

It is a screen name so to speak and yes the same as the wine.
I manage a support group and we call this online home our castle, a magical place of sorts. I have been known to take us on imaginary far away trips and by taking 3 imaginary sips of the Magic Merlot from a golden goblet we are on our way...

so.... reikimerlot winks and grins...

Donna

That is a great story..I want to hear more about that...not sure about imaginary sips of wine...ho ho

Hey Rosa Parks if you are reading this..

I LOVE YOU!!!!! AND ALL YOU STOOD FOR YOU GENTLE SOUL!!

BLESSINGS TO THE HEAVENS,

J

**^**

May she watch over us all and give us rap on the head when we are out of line!

Hi dakota,....
hmmmm.... what have we (I) learn't,.. 'A LOT'..we are all different, a lot come from other countries where "the words" 'mean different' things,( sorry,) but I some times laugh, in fun, as to what some words in the USA are said,& mean here in Australia..miss Finality & I had this problem to start with, then we sorted it out, by 'asking'!!!!the MEANING of the spoken word, I suspect this goes for the USA understanding OZ, the UK, etc, etc...so what have I learn't.... we are all individuals, all human, & 'I THANK GOD WE ARE'....gee, it would be soooo boring if we were 'all' the same eh!!...one word though, in ANY language means the same... that word is ...SORRY....
luv to all....wendy ann xxx

Dear Tracey,
It seems to me that many times whatever parents are about the kids will gavitate to the opposite. It really can be heart breaking for parents & Im not making fun of that...but on a light note, I have to smile when Im in public and see two straight arrows with a goth teen or very artistic type people with a preppy kid. You wonder how often they ask if their baby was switched at birth. Perhaps I notice this because as a child I often wondered if I was adopted :)
peace & joy,
holobon

tracey,

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Reiki All Around,

All Blessings,

Firekeeper