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i understand the concept of cutting a cord as it drains energy. Cord cutting may be beneficial for the one receiving the treatment, how does the other person receive it when a cord is cut? and most importantly, can you undo a cut?

im new to this all and am hoping someone can shed some light on this. any info would be much appreciated.

thanks.

nikkimoon,

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- there are any number of views on so-called cords

- some may be unwanted intrusions or connections that we make with others or others make with us

- cutting cords is often made to sound sort of cut and dried - well, often it is not since there are also thought forms that accompany cords - and these do not simply cease to exist when a cord is supposedly cut

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- the trick too, some say, is to then be able to prevent re-connections (this is where dealing with the thought and emotion forms may become important)

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- I would also strongly recommend that one does not try to cut cords for someone else - deal with your own - it is quite possible to inadvertently generate attachment to someone else in the process of trying to "help" him\her

- hope this helps

Reiki All Around,

All Blessings,

Firekeeper

Nikkimoon,
I learned early, from a dear Lady on this board, that cutting cords is tricky business. She taught about finding the root of the cord and not being too eager to cut cords as well.

From my own experience I believe that cutting a cord should be looked at like psychic surgery. Clear communication with the client is very important. Ask these questions: Are they aware of the cord or symptoms of one? can they visualize it at all? What characteristics would they give to the cord? If it is removed or cut what will they LOOSE by the removal or cut?
You can add to these questions but get the idea. Ther emoval of anything is a loss even if it is something that was not "good" for them.

Final words: Be careful, Go slow :))

Love and light,
Tracey

Dear Tracey,

You are so right when you speak of the loss that can be experienced when a cord is cut. If the thoughts/emotions surrounding the attachment have not been worked through, a person may cut the cord as a way around doing their personal work. When the cord is then cut, even though they felt they wanted it cut, the result can be a strong feeling of abandonment.

I do feel their are times that cutting cords is appropriate. I also feel, however, that it is often used as a substitute for working through our issues and personal healing. And it should be remembered that we allowed the cord to be placed and our need is something that should be addressed.

All blessings,
Lesley

Hi Lesley! I have not talked with you in so long. Many thanks to you for your teachings and helping me along the journey:)))
Hugs,
Tracey

Dear Tracey,

Yes, it's been a while hasn't it? I'm happy to help when I can and grateful for all you've taught me, as well!

Sending love to you and the family,
Lesley

Dear Nikkimoon,
I was taught about cords in a rather negative manner..like blood sucking leeches or energy drainers! Over the years Ive come to see them as attachments that are present with my blessing, conscious or unconscious. Perhaps we have abandoned or turned away from the "awareness" needed to recognize them. The physical world we live in distracts from this awareness which requires going beyond the obvious.
I think of cords as "symbols" of attachments: emotional, energetic, thought,physical, etc. If you have a relationship with someone and you decide to end it...arent you still "attached" to that person until you are ready to truly let it go and isnt there something that remains with you always? Those that cross our paths help to weave the threads of our lives into a unique tapestry. Im not sure that I believe that it is possible to eliminate these threads as if they never existed, like erasing chalk writing from a board.
Perhaps it is up to us to determine if we keep a thread vs. a cord?
Whatever we believe, we are ultimately responsible for ourselves & our actions, not the reactions of others.
Perhaps it takes two to form a cord and two to cut it totally? But arent we responsible for our side of the cord?
I see a great deal of similiarity between exploring cords & the explorations of psychotherapy. But what the bleep do I know? :)

peace & joy,
holobon

Otoharo!

I can speak from experience on this one. I discovered many years ago, in fact at the time I first came on this board, that I am one who sucks other' energy via cords. I remember FK saying to me that I must ask permission first. Well, duh, I had no idea this was the case! Again this year, I learned that I have had cords in my friend who is also my soul mate (in the sense that we are a split of one soul). Again, I had no awareness that I did that and am more then eager to quit doing it! Thus, I routinely examine my energy field and cut cords whether they are there or not, just in case!

As a result, For a month or so, I felt , Well, I could not say how i felt. I simply did not know who I am. I seemed as nobody. I felt I had no indentity. My friend has helped me and I spend most of my days playing my music and writing more music. In music, I know me, I know who I am. this is healing me. In all creativity, we are simply ourselves. We can not be anyone else while being creative. that is why creativity is so important to a child.

Yes, you are right in asking what the other person feels. At the same time, you have no responsibility to that other person. You are solely responsible for you and you only. The characteristic of being human includes being self responsible.

finality

I agree with what mr. peter has to say. I feel that it is instrumental to work on the mindset that allowed the cord to begin with. whether that be a cord from us to something else or from another individual to us.

Dakota mentioned roots to the attachment and making sure they are cleared. I had never encountered anything of that nature. For myself I see cords cut easily most times. But of course if i don't change my mindsets which is slow going work, then the cord comes back. I feel the drain stop and know i have cut a cord. I have seen others react positively. So I would offer cutting the connection is usually quite simple in and of itself. However, I would side with Dakota to be as thorough as possible.Make sure the job is done regardless of your outlook on roots and such. And i'm not saying i feel she is incorrect only that i have only encountered this viewpoint through her person. And it does give us something to think about.

Ms. Lesley taught me about cords as I had no prior experience. All cords may not have roots if they are an atachment from another person. What I have found is that cords of our own emotional making, the hanging on of emotional traumas, do tend to have roots and in unexpected places sometimes. That is why I said being thorough is so important.

Was wondering what your view is about the feelings or symptoms of loss after a cutting or removal of cords? Have you encountered this as I have?

L&L,
Tracey

Keep in mind my experiences with others is limited but i do have some.

That being said, what I have encountered is that usually it is noticeably helpful, such as someone feeling sudden relief.

In one instance I had someone react very negatively. She gave the ok to cut the connection as I made it known before. Felt better buttt she was an odd person. good gal. But a lil messed up and the cord i cut was how she was getting her energy.She was basically almost always constantly pulling dirty unfiltered energy into herself. Fancied herself the psychic vampire type. Didn't take from people but kinda scavenged the energy people gave off.
She had no coping tools and i about broke her doing it. At that point with her ok i asked for guidance in helping to reconnect her in the way she was. what the attachment led to specifically i dunno. but she got sickl her attitude went downhill etc within aa day . So I felt it best to give a shot at putting it back in place as I was not experienced enough to do anything else at that point. But told her I felt uncomfortable trying and that I think she just had to get used to the whole thing.

Otoharo!

Dave, you can't be responsible for the other person.

For myself, it was interesting this morning before awakening, I dreamt a child, about three years old . He was there, not doing anything, not affecting me. I shared this with my friend who checked out that it was me. So I have had myself with me all day. Overall, it has felt like being able to start anew from scratch! Music has been particularly rewarding today. There was difficulty with ego butting in, trying to distort the scene of myself. It was as if a filter were being laid over my sight. I never accepted it, though. that is good news for me to be able to recognize ego right off the bat and not get caught up in my head all day long.

finality