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I am trying to better understand my therapist because she says things like my energy is behind me with none in front of me-so what does that really mean.
But my main concern is she told me I need to fill the hole in my heart with warmth, love, and by putting my foot forward someone will follow. I acknowledge the need for more loving companionship and affection in my life but can you tell me what she means. She is wonderful and I sort of agree but am confused and don't know what to do. Help me understand! Zen

zen49 said on

>I am trying to better understand my therapist because she says things like my energy is behind me with none in front of me-so what does that really mean.
>But my main concern is she told me I need to fill the hole in my heart with warmth, love, and by putting my foot forward someone will follow. I acknowledge the need for more loving companionship and affection in my life but can you tell me what she means. She is wonderful and I sort of agree but am confused and don't know what to do. Help me understand! Zen

Have you asked your therapist about what she means? What were her explanations?

Bruce

Zen,

Hi,

I do not presume to speak for your 'therapist' but if I were intepret your words about what she has said, it sounds to me as if she is suggesting that you include more compasssionate action in your life rather than seeking validation based on the affections of others. This does not mean, however, that you ought not form supportive\loving relationships.

Cheers,

RC

I asked her twice: first about the energy, she said I am holding back from disclosing my thoughts and feelings. On the second point she just held my hand on the way out and said go and fill your heart and there are many people out there just like you. I took it to mean to be more active in social situations and get to know people better emotionally too.
bruce said on

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>>I am trying to better understand my therapist because she says things like my energy is behind me with none in front of me-so what does that really mean.
>>But my main concern is she told me I need to fill the hole in my heart with warmth, love, and by putting my foot forward someone will follow. I acknowledge the need for more loving companionship and affection in my life but can you tell me what she means. She is wonderful and I sort of agree but am confused and don't know what to do. Help me understand! Zen
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Thank you RC, I didn't think of it that way, I though at first she meant to get more into social situations to know people more closely. Are you meaning to get out into more open expression of my compassion and feelings rather than tallying up how affectionate peole are with me? I appreciate it. My therapist is special but cryptic and jumps topics often. Zen

I'd love to tell you what to do or not to, but at the end of days its your reckoning.

You decide.

Your therapist seems to me to be a bit of a flake.

But I'm being judgemental, or just mental.

the object of therapy is clarity. Seems to me that yours is just as confusing. But thats my opinion, what do I dknow.

Needles to say. Hope things work for ya.

Thank you. I wondered if this really helps or confuses me too. I mean I like her but get no really clear answers which is why I wrote in. Reiki helps me with more relaxed living, stress reduction, and healing of physical ailments. This person is new to me. Two sessions my other person was away. I will wait for her. zen

zen,

Hi,

I would offer that the more openly you express yourself in compassionate ways the more connected you will feel with all that is around you. And, part of developing one's skill in compassionate action is to also learn to recognize when compassion (not just affection) is being offered to us and to be more open to accepting that compassion. It is a process of developing one's discernment as well as one's courage to act accordingly.

Cheers,

RC

Your "therapist" as you call her is indeed the one to be questioned--as Bruce says. However, questioning others will of course give you insight in other directions as well--as you can see from the responses here.

A common strategy for "therapists" working with one of troubled or confused minds try to get them to figure it out rather than just telling them exactly what it is one needs to know. The purpose of this is not only to get them to take resposnsibility for healing, but to also give them confidence for independent problem solving.

Comparing your first query with your response to Bruce shows that you withheld information--perhaps hoping somenone would solve the riddle for you?

If I were to tell someone that they aree putting all their energy behind them, it would mean that they were stuck in the past, dwelling on the past, and not putting any energy into building their future. They would be expending their energy on things nothing can be done aboutt because they are already done with no corrections possible except to change their future by completely altering their present.

What yu are NOW determines what you will be, not what you were--except that is what made you what you are. Drop what you are from your past just let it go and start being what you want to be in the future. Be diligent about it and persistent, the past no longer existes, only the present and the future--what are you going to do with it?

Let go of your garbage.

Energy body speaking it is a whole different issue, so I am sure she was not refering to the energy of the energy body, but surely your mental and emotional expenditure and dwelling.

If you really can't solve the riddle, then go back and insist on the solution--or is it really that confusing?

Thank you for your replies. I spoke to my friend when we had more time and my qestions were answered.free up emotions and loving others.