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Namaste All.

So just when I think that I've kind of got some sense of the meaning of life and our purpose here on earth, something happens that just doesn't make any sense at all and throws it all back into confusion.

I often scan the various boards for Healing requests, some of which I add to my distance list. There was one post in particular, that I just had to add to my list....it's not that I'm selective particularly, I try to send to as many as I can, but it is physically impossible to do that whilst still maintaining intent and mindfulness....the Reiki box method just doesn't feel right with me...it's a personal thing, no judgement against those that do feel comfortable with this method.

Anyway, this particular request was for a newborn baby boy who had suffered birth trauma and needed urgent surgery. He survived the surgery, but yesterday, there was a message to say that he had died on sunday morning. It just feels so senseless and I am really struggling to understand the meaning and purpose of this and at the moment I am totally failing to do so. I feel so emotional about this particular request....it's kind of strange because sometimes when sending Reiki, I have a sense that Jesus is around, putting his hands where needed too. This time whilst sending Reiki on Saturday, I had an impression of Jesus holding the babe in his arms and cradling him.

Can anyone ever make sense of these things?

As Reiki practitioners is it okay to feel emotionally involved?....I don't mean to take on someone else's pain exactly, but I don't think that I am ever going to be able to feel detached from things like this when they happen. Whilst sending to the baby's parents yesterday, I felt a lot of emotion, which I let flow through me and down into Mother Earth....I knew that this emotion did not belong to me. This I guess is the first time that I have had to deal with the fact that sometimes those that we send to are going to die and not be healed. There is also a part of me that is saying...what right do I have to be sad about this?.....but the thing with Reiki is that you do feel in a sense that you 'know' the person that you are sending to.

How do we be compassionate and yet detached, the two things don't seem to go hand in hand ?

Sorry about the long post but any advice would be appreciated.

Love,Light and Blessings
Helen.

Helen,

This post was very emotional for me, as well as others who read it.

I don't pretend that I have the answers. I only have what works for myself, in the loss of several loved ones in the past few years.

First, realize that Reiki does what it is intended to do. Sometimes it heals, sometimes it makes the going to the other side a little easier. Our intent is to heal, whatever that healing may be. NOT the outcome.

In the coming and going of a child, I believe the lessons were chosen by the parents and the child prior to this happening as part of the great lessons of their lives. If you realize that there are no 'new' souls, that we all keep returning to heal various aspects, there was something to heal there, and hopefully, the lesson will be healed, and never need to be repeated.

I think the child was here, briefly so that for some of us, reiki people, the lesson may have been this one. There is no doubt that we all learn something whenever one so small leaves us. Since we are all part of the same family, we grieve the loss of the physical, because something is now missing, but we celebrate the increase in energy on the spirit side, because we all recognize each other....

Maybe this helps.. Priestess

Helen,

Namaste.

Compassionate Action is done for its own sake. It is an act for which there must be no attachements - otherwise, some say, we gain from our compassionate acts - which we must not. Even to feel sympathy is an attachment of Ego.

Who is to say healing did not occur? Death is a healing - as is rebirth.

Reiki all around,

All Blessings,

Firekeeper

Priestess,

Namaste.

Many thanks, your words made great sense to me and helped me to understand a little better.

I think perhaps one mistake that I have been making, is getting too involved with the outcome...as you say our intent is to heal, whatever that healing may be.

Thanks again.

Love,Light and Blessings
Helen.

Firekeeper,

Namaste.

I must admit to being a little confused here :)

How can a compassionate act be done, if we were not to 'feel' compassion or sympathy? Isn't it the feeling that motivates the action? or should compassionate action just become a reflex reaction, with no feelings involved ?

I've always considered compassion, empathy and sympathy feelings that we have little control over....they seem to me to be almost reflex reactions in certain circumstances...

Love,Light and Blessings
Helen.

Helen,

Namaste.

Yes, it is a difficult issue and one for which I doubt I have a satisfactory discussion.

Feelings indicate Ego attachments. It is ego attachments that, ultimately, draw us away from the path to the Awakening wheni it appears at each death.

It is the ego attachements which lead us back into the next rebirth.

BUt it is the "strong" feeling or attachements which do so. So we must divest ourselves of "strong attachments, positive or negative.

So in a sense we must have sort of "neurtal feelings" but then in our sense (not the spiritual sense) this makes no sense. :-}}

Compassionate Action is doing with no thoght or expectation of "any" gain - no thanks, no warm feelings of being useful or needed, etc. These to can be ego attachments.

Hope this helps. There is much more to contemplate and say but later. :-}}

Reiki all around,

All BLessings,

Firekeeper

Firekeeper,

Namaste.

Many thanks for the explanation.

The 'ego' seems to be such a part of being human and as humans we do seem to have 'strong' emotions. Looks like I for one will be stuck in the cycle of death and rebirth for a fair while longer :))

It seems then that our 'ego' has to be overcome by our soul and kept well under control before we can progress?

You are right, there is much to contemplate, but it looks as though I for one, may have many lifetimes to do so :))))

Love,Light and Blessings
Helen.

Dear Rainbow
When you feel empathy to a person or situation you are more likely to get some type of feed back.
Brain Weiss 's first book is called Many Lives, Many
Masters. In it he tells of his son being born with his heart outside of his body and living for a very short time.
He goes on to explain how the soul of the son was aiding
him (Brain W) in his life's mission by only being in this existense for a short time. It's a very thought provoking book. You may want to borrow a copy and read it. It may
give you another way of looking at such an experience.
Hope this is a small help.
Love & Light
Diane

Helen,

Namaste.

"......and miles to go before I sleep".

Or lifetimes. :-}} before I awaken. :-}}}

Reiki all around,

All Blessings,

Firekeeper

Diane,

Namaste.

Many thanks for the reference to this book, I will try and find it, as it sounds really interesting.

Thanks again.

Love,Light and Blessings
Helen.