Hi Starjasmine ;o)
> Almost every encounter in life carries both the positive and negative ascepts/implications. The difference is in how and what we focus on when faced with problems and obstacles.
>(an attempt to have a balance/neutral point of view)
Exactly! In the realm of the relative (where we are living) there are indeed "opposites".
> My additional question is how do we keep anger in its place and "tamed" at the same time? For anger tells us that things are imbalanced and are tilting towards the less tolerable side of the "equation' (anger= fear= action). There have been times that understanding and compromises are depleted due to the possibility that anger and its companions (like pass experiences) have "gotten the better" of anyone or animals that sense resentments.
In Eastern thought, NOT getting emotionally attached (grasping) or being in emotional denial (aversion) keeps one from accumulating karmic traces, or seeds of karma that keep us in the condition of samsara.
> Other than that, thanks goodness, there are still reasons to see as many situations as possible with a positive attitudes. And how true it is not to waste energy on being mad about any thing at all.
The key here is "choice". E-motions (energy in motion) are simply indicators. Anger isn't "bad". It just is. Go below the surface, to the thought behind the thought of the expressed emotion and find out what core belief supports the "intollerance". Denial and continuing to express it doesn't change anything. This is reactive living, or being the effect instead of the cause. Watch for patterns. Take inventory. Question inner self about why it feels the way it does, then go to the core thought and heal it by changing your mind about it. How? Through kind and compassionate observation, stepping back and taking the emotion out of it. It can and will change your life. I know. I've done it. After 17 years of eating disorders, I finally found the little mis-thought that caused the pain....abandonment. This little mis-thought catapulted into all sorts of self esteem issues. After changing my mind about the "situation" and the people involved in the "situation", it literally fell away and I then had room to build upon who I "really was", or shall i say "really wasn't". Now I know the truth, the we are all divine seeds of God, Love. I love what I read recently....the essence of intelligence is being objective...the essence of wisdom is the love of mankind.
So what are the magic ingredients to a well lived life? Unconditional love for your Self and your fellow man.
Tame anger? The best way to tame it is to ask why it is there and where it is coming from, then get to work on self healing.
All my love,
Kimberlee