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Hi all,

Thought I would share my experience with this in the hope that it might help others who find themselves in similar situations :)

Without boring you all with the details, my husband and I have had an on going 'situation'for many years on and off with a member of my husband's family. I have never found a way to truly resolve this and the past year has been awful again, to the point where I have found myself becoming increasingly depressed and obsessive over the whole situation. Well last week I reluctantly accepted that this situation will never be resolved, all parties involved (myself included) being too different to ever wholeheartedly accept one another. Anyway, I read something on here a few weeks ago about random acts of compassionate action. I decided to consciously begin carrying out random acts of compassion in my everyday life. Since then I have to say that I have begun to feel better; less obsessed about the negatives and much more focused on the positives. I wake up now thinking about how I can make some small difference today, rather than my first thoughts being bitter and resentful. When I find my thoughts trailing that way, I focus on what compassionate action I can do next.

Anyway, just wanted to share this in the hope that it will be of some use to somebody somewhere in their own pathway to healing :)

Gentle Blessings
Helen

Helen,

Hi.

Random acts of Compassion? Absitively! Posolutley!

;)

Cheers (a sweet dram before bed)

RC

Hi RC,

Sweet dram? I've not tried sweet before, mind you whisky is not really my preference. I did try a single malt in Edinburgh and liked it in comparison with blended whisky :)

Gentle Blessings
Helen

helen,

Hi.

To me there is no comparison between single malts and blends; the single malts prevail, hands down. But, as with most potables, even the single malts are not all created equal. If you have a chance, try a 'double-casked' single malt. For example, Glenmorangie's 12 year olde Portwood Finish (for the last two years the drams are aged in casks previously used to age Port). Glenmorangie also has a Sherrywood finish as do a few other distilleries (The Balvenie is one I believe).

These 2-cask single malts are truely sweet.

Cheers ( a bit of Stilton on the side)

RC

Hi RC,

I'll keep my eye out for that one and give it a try, especially with a bit of stilton on the side :)

Gentle Blessings
Helen

Otoharo!

Helen this is a spendid posting. Thanks. This is a good example of the power of choice.

finality

Hi Helen,
What a great choice you made. Just for today be compassionate. :)

peace & joy,
holobon

Namaste Helen.
Thanks for the post. It does wonders with everyday compassionate actions.
I have been in a similar situation for the last 26 years. Since I changed my attitude towards the situation, it has become better to deal with.It is okay if people dont want to change for the better, we change the attitude to deal them.
Alamelu.

Helen,

I'm not much good with folk, better with critters, but will bear in mind what you say. Quite inspirational

At the risk of going down a road I've travelled before (you know which one) rofl,
try Te Bheag from the Gaelic Whisky Co., Isleornsay, Isle of Skye. You should be able to get it at Oddbins. The smoothest blend you will ever taste. Nectar of the Gods!! You can join the Brotherhood of the Blessed Dram!!

You too RC

Slan go foille agus beannacht leat

Brian

RC

Trathnona maith

You are now a fully paid up member of the Brotherhood of the Blessed Dram, with chapters in Alabama, North Lancashire, hopefully Cornwall and somewhere else in The U.S.A., not forgetting my old Cajun mate in Lafayette.

Cead mille failte

Slan go foille agus beannacht leat.

Brian

celticcapricorn,

Hi.

BoBD? Honored. Blessed Be.!

And, I suppose my Wiccan High Priestess sister-in-law in Tennessee, who also favors a good single malt, might qualify as well? Sisterhood of the Blessed Dram? LOL

:)

Can't say I know about Te Bheag. By the looks of the name I would doubt one could find it in The States. With all the blends made here (few of them worth the glass they are bottled in, in my opinion - and I do not drink them except on rare occasion in a Wild Turkey Olde Fashion) I would suspect there are some restrictions on the number of imported blends permitted or that interest folks.

Cheers,

RC

Hi Brian,

Thanks for your reply :)

I'll have a look in Oddbins and see what I can find to put away for xmas :))

Gentle Blessings
Helen

Hi Finality,

It has taken me a long time to realise this and I am still taking baby steps, but at least in the right direction. :)

Gentle Blessings
Helen

RC,

Maidin maith,

Nay , 'tis the Brotherhood that is honoured by your by your acceptance.

rofl.

A chapter in Tennessee would be a most welcome addition to the Brotherhood. We can extend our discussions to include those fine examples of the Tennessee tradition of uisce beatha. Please extend cead mille failte to your sister-in-law and wish her beannacht leat on my behalf.

Details of Te Bheag can be found on the website:-

As we move on from Scotch and include Tennesse, before long, we may graduate to the REALLY good stuff:-

IRISH.

rofllia.

Slan go foille agus beannacht leat.

Brian

Hi holobon,

Thanks for your reply :)

I often think that the Reiki principles are overlooked and under estimated. Applying them to our lives can be a key to healing in itself :)

Gentle Blessings
Helen

Hi Alamelu,

Thanks for your reply :)

Yes someone once taught me that we can only be responsible for own own actions and reactions . We cannot change others, only ourselves :)

Gentle Blessings
Helen

RC

Maidin maith again!

For some reason, the web address did not appear in my last post.

here it is again.

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or, you can type gaelic-whiskies into google and click on the first link. Nice little site (and even nicer whisky)

Beannacht leat

Brian

Dear Helen,
Your post has focused my attention on the way I react to set patterns in family encounters. You get stuck in a mode of behaviour formed by childhood relationships & it is very difficult to get beyond it...who else knows your hot buttons so well?? Believe there is research out there that supports when we consistently respond in the same way a pattern at the level of cells & neurons forms that becomes the road most travelled. There actually is a physical reason for responding the same way, the familiar way.
So awareness is the first step in forming a new pathway. The decision to be compassionate must forge some incredible paths at the cellular level. :)
Never ceases to amaze me what a resource this Cafe is! Sometimes several posts from different people will just come together for me. Thank you so much for posting....

peace & joy,
holobon

Brian,

Hi.

If I am not mistaken, web addresses can only be posted at the Resource and Announcement boards. So, a dram of Knappogue Castle to soothe that Irish celt's brow (and palate)?

:)

I will gladly pass greetings on to The Lady in TN.

Cheers (a slab of Carrigaline Farmhouse cheese on the side)

RC

Hi Holobon,

Sometimes I think that each post here is like part of a jigsaw puzzle or clues to a crossword puzzle. We each contribute a piece to the whole picture :)

You said 'Believe there is research out there that supports when we consistently respond in the same way a pattern at the level of cells & neurons forms that becomes the road most travelled.'

Funny you should mention that, my husband was only telling me about this just the other day. He was telling me in the context of the aging process and how we learn etc. and how a pathway is actually imprinted in the brain :)

It actually helps to know that there are physical reasons for our reactions as well as emotional and psychological ones :)

Have a great weekend!

Gentle Blessings
Helen