The Reiki Cafe 

Greetings,
I had a meeting to go to with a government agency I am working with and I was told it was about business with
foster kids and turned out, it was a set-up. The mom of the kids slandered me in front of an audience this agency conveniently arranged and I felt they ought to know better as this woman has no credibility. Is this an emotional abuse issue? I want to tell it to the Judge and would like any tips please. thank you kindly,
peace,
Prosperity

prosperity,

Hi,

Was this a meeting you requested? And why do you feel this was a "set-up"? What possible motive would the agency have to do this? If the content of the meeting was not what you expected is it possible you mis-understood the agenda at the outset?

Some additional clarification would be helpful.

Cheers,

RC

Hi Rc,
No I did not request this meeting. The mom of whose children I have in my care is a "victim" type personality and the agency people buy into her complaining and want to help her and in so letting her have an audience to slander me they ought to know better as she is not credible. Their motive is to 1) get out of paying me what they agreed to and 2) give the kids back to their mom and 3) just want to see the show and hear gossip 4) or/and believe the mom - She lies repeatedly. We got these kids out of a sheltor hearing as we thought one was our grandchild and unfortunately was not and the other child came with the package and we were not paid any monies for the other child. We are letting them go but now I believe they may be better off away from the mom. Does that make sense. I'm trying to understand it as well. Thanks for your response.
peace,
Prosperity

in fact.. the caseworker called upset at the mom and requested the meeting as I heard her tell me the "mom" was not only telling the drug court that I was not letting her visit her kids (not true) but was saying that the caseworker was prejudice. Yet that was never mentioned in the meeting and when I said that I didn't want her talking about me in court the mom denied she ever talked about me in court and the same caseworker who told me she does talk about me in court said in the meeting that she never talks about me in court. ?? Is that not crazy making?
peace
Prosperity

Dear Prosperity,

I have no tips or clues.....but I really am sorry you had to go through that. It really sounds like a crappy situation.

Rock On!
Roxy

prosperity,

Hi,

It surely is 'crazy making' if you let yourself get 'crazy' over it. And, it still seems odd to me that the agency, which apparently allowed the child\children to be placed with you would, without cause, try to remove them from you again. I can understand the mother's desire to get them back but the agency, ideally, is only interested in the welfare of the children. So, if that means leaving them with you.........

And, yes, dealing with those that will say most anything to get what they want is very difficult. I hope things settlle out for you.

Cheers,

RC

Dear Rc,
Yes it is odd since they (DCFS) recommended my spouse and I permanent custody to the Judge a few months ago which he awarded to us and we refused as we do not want the kids permanently. They ought to be better trained as the mom is a con artist. Master of manipulation and argumentation and has symptoms of Opposition Disorder. I believe they may have allowed her to slander me to stay out of her war path so they won't get slandered themselves. I told them I wanted them to get the kids and the truth is, they want us to keep them longer so we agreed until court and I'm just practicing what to say to the Judge as I feel this kids have been mentally abused by the mom as she pumps them dry during phone conversations and visits and uses them to spy on my spouse and I. And the DCFS has mentally abused them as well.
I do appreciate your comments as I need to hear other perspectives. thanks,
peace,
Prosperity
Peace,
love and joy!

Dear Roxy,
Thanks. Yes crappy and sleazy, yet I am looking at it as an opportunity for me to voice my opionion and show them who I AM. And to let the Judge know the truth and that I do value my role as a Foster Parent and that these kids need a stable home and the gameplaying that the DCFS workers are doing that they ought to know better as my position was diminished and to ask for back pay the agency owes me. And if the State wants to take kids from the parents, they ought to pay the care takers.
Peace,
Prosperity

prosperity,

Hi,

If you had not agreed to take them permanently then I am not sure why you are upset that the agency might place them elsewhere. The manner in which they do this (conduct their business), courteous or not so courteous, is another matter. Also, slander is a serious charge to bring and not easy to prove. One must show there was a deliberate and malicious intention to besmirch. Somethng said in the heat of an arguement or debate will not likely qualify as slander. But, I recommend you contatct a lawyer if you truely feel you have been slandered.

Cheers,

RC

there is no rhyme or reason for what they do as far as I can see. Been there and kinda doing that. 6,000$ in the hole, 2 support checks (even though the state takes 931$ out of the father's paycheck)..............6 grand of debt directly caused by the court system: allowing a challeng to the guardianship by someone other than the parents, court ordered psych exams (630 cash).........etc. Will hold you in prayer

blackearth

Dear Blackearth,
Thanks alot. I do appreciate that very much.
peace,
Prosperity

Dear RC,
I am not upset that the agency will place them elsewhere. I am just sorting this all out and these posts help alot. I just think the DCFS social workers ought to know better than to give someone like this so called mom an audience and coaching to cast dispersions on me as she is hyper-vigilent about what I do and I felt like my position as a Foster parent has been diminished. I do appreciate your comments. thanks,
peace,
Prosperity