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Otoharo!

I am not able to sleep tonight because I drank tea all afternoon. So I am here with all of you.

I have a strong desire that all my friends be forthright with me. And honesty. I can not trust when it feels to me that another is double guessing me and saying and doing things out of compassion for what THEY decide I might get my feelings hurt, etc. and etc.

A number of years ago my best friend was like that. It took her years to catch on that because our enregy fields constantly intermingle, we know each other and feel each other's feelings, why not just be forthright in the first place? Now I trust her conpletely BECAUSE she is forthright. And honest. You couldn't be forthright if you weren't also honest.

That means also, I have to be forthright and honest with myself. And to go along with this, I also love and respect myself. I believe that is a result.

What stimulated me to say all this was the thread on Naricissism. The first thing Lazaris had us do was to get acquainted with ourselves, look into a mirror and love that face. Until one loves oneself well, one can not love anyone else.

Being forthright eliminates to possibility of being like the person Narcissus.

That is my opinion, anyway.

finality

Dear Finality,

It takes a very secure person to be able to accept outright honesty and forthrightness. Most people are't able to take it without offense or anger. I think I have a tendency to not be so honest with a lot of people for fear that I will offend them, and be met with anger and hostiility. I'm also not sure how readily I'd be able to deal with people who would be so straightforwardly honest.

Love,
Roxy

I admire those who are forthright and honest, and not seeing this virtue in themselves don't preen under the 'label' of being this.
Whats this got to do with the price of bread?
God I'd love a cup of coffee!

Otoharo!

Come on, Roxy. I have always been forthright with you. Has that been a problem? Of course, if a person is afraid of their own power they may tend to reject feedback of their power that others feel. If so, they are rejecting themselves.

finaltiy

finality,

/*\ Namaste :-}}

- as long as Narcissus did not pretend to love another when he was really not capable of doing so, then he was, one might venture, at least being forthright about who he was

- so, can we say that loving oneself to the exclusion of others is not being forthright?

>:-}}

- if, for example, I were say that I matter first and foremost above all others and cannot love anyone but myself, at least I am being forthright and others should be able to figure out where they stand, so to speak

- of course, if I am being perverse with such a statement then I am perhaps not being forthright

>:-}}

- have a great 2007

Reiki All Around,

All Blessings,

Firekeeper

Total agreement here! Another thing I'm a beginner at. My romantic attractions have always been to women who were blunt and plain-speaking and not afraid of hurting my feelings. Which they did, which in turn taught me to understand what my feelings were, since I had stuffed them so deeply. Now, perhaps, I can be attracted to someone who is both forthright and gentle.

Speaking plainly is a rare gift and always an honor for the recipient even if painful.

However, plain speaking is not an excuse for rudeness or name-calling. A fine balance there!

Blessings,
Aronaya

Otoharo!

It has been interesting to me, how we instantly think of the negatives of relationships, whereas, I have come to the place that everything is positive, including forthrightness.

finaltiy

Yes, that is my return to beginning for this year, to go back and learn anew the art of praise and glory of loving relationship, whatever it may be.

Otoharo, indeed!

Blessings,
Aronaya

finality,

Hi,

Forthrightness is much easier to ascertain when one is able to look the other person in the eyes when they speak (as oppsoed to the internet, for example). :) As for forthrightness with oneself? Rather a tougher matter sometimes. And, I don't think looking in the mirror is the answer.

:)

Cheers (a bit of nutmeg on my egg nog, please),

RC