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greetings to all,
I am dealing with a jealous mom who gets jealous of her boyfriend. Is there some asset underneath jealousy as she does admit her jealousy. Any information would be appreciated.
thanks,
peace,
Prosperity

prosperity,

Hi,

In 25 words or so could you describe her behaviors that you and she are labelling as expressions of jealosy? Over the years I have found that word usages are not always the same and that behavioral descriptions often clarify nicely.

Cheers,

RC

Hi Prosperity,

Low self esteem is often at the heart of jealousy and causes feelings of insecurity. If a person finds it hard to love themself then they find it even harder to believe that another can possibly love them. They project this feeling onto their partner. The ironic thing is that the jealousy often destroys the relationship anyway, which then reinforces the lack of self worth and round and round it goes.

Gentle Blessings
Helen

Dear RC,
Well one of his teachers gave him a gift and she was going to cut it up and throw in the garbage. Which she never did, but then got mad (pattern) when he goes to visit his family and tells him not to come back. Then she also went to his class and gave the women dirty looks especially when she walked in and saw him sitting with another women talking to her on their break.
thanks,
Prosperity

prosperity,

Hi,

Jealosy is a sign that one does not really know oneSelf. It is, essentially a projeciton of not knowing oneself. If we do not know ourselves, these feelings of 'helplessness' lead to a need to control others (usually in relationships). Any threat to that control then becomes a threat of 'unfaithfulness'.

It is also possible that some of the reactions you describe derive out of envy, not jealosy. And, in relationships where jealosy is found one may also find a good bit of co-dependence; though not always of the obvious sort.

Cheers,

RC

RC,
I believe that. I have had to distance myself from her as I believe that sort of behavior may have been an energy drain for me as I get tired of listening to it yet, she always goes to church and acts like she doesn't like to hear anything negative, not realizing she is. Thanks for your response. I wish I knew how to help her.
peace,
Prosperity

Dear Helen,
That makes sense. I believe her boyfriend may not come back which is sad because he was so helpful and I do believe loved her. Thanks for your words of wisdom.
peace,
Prosperity