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I met this fella this other day, a lovely chap.
He gave me a reading and I instantly felt a rapport with him.
He's a spiritual healer as well as a reiki one, and I respect his calling and honour his compassion.
My trouble is since that time, I have a growing conviction that I'd like to get a healing from him.
That'd be no biggie, I have his card and I could just call him.
My problam is that I'm, urm, attracted to him.
Hence the heart thumping confusion. Logic is telling me not to call him for a healing, I don;t want to cross the line.
My heart is telling me to go for it, but that'd be a means to an end, like getting over it or something.
My question is, is that has something similar happened to any of you in your profession and how did you deal with it.
I think I'd better err on the side of caution, and not make an appointment.
It's kind of catch22, I think.
If I do I get a healing, and maybe get over this crush, and the likelihood of this type of thing never happening again.
Conversly, If I do, I'm exasperating the situation.
And If I don't, this could happen again.
I feel stuck.

Jaguar,

/*\ Namaste :-}

- you said in part: "Logic is telling me not to call him for a healing, I don;t want to cross the line."

- well, for anything to happen I would suppose the other chap would have to cross whatever line it is to which you refer as well, no??

- are you putting the cart before the horse here?

Reiki All Around,

All Blessings,

Firekeeper

could be. I've been in in a situation before where I had a crush on a therapist and crossed the line, nearly to the edge of stalking.
He eventually told me to back of or there'd be legal issues involved.
I never intentionaly contacted him again.
So once bitten...
I'm afraid that something similar could be there in the background of my psyche.
So maybe I'm premature, definately deviantly immature.
I feel that I'm at the end of a thether and either the only thing to do is climb up, or jump.
I need help with this.
I just have to find a medium that suits to do so, but... It's like I'm in a loop. Stuck.
As for the other fella crossing the line? No, empathicly not.

Hi Jaguar,

You could call him and explain that you feel a 'connection' with him and would like to book a healing. Or maybe you could just call him and arrange to meet up for coffee or a beer. That way you could get to know him better and work out whether the attraction is reciprocated.

Personally if I was attracted to someone I wouldn't choose to get a healing from them as I would be too worried about my ability to remain mindful. I would need to separate the two....but then we are all different :)

Gentle Blessings
Helen

Hi Helen,

I agree with you.

Jaguar...I think it's a good suggestion just to do a cup of coffee somewhere. Don't you think being in a position of being taken care of by this man, also with him touching you in a healing way, might cause you to feel strongly for him?

Blessings,
Roxy

OToharo!

I sounds like you want some therapy for yourself. why not find someone who can help you remove this tendency forever. That used to be my profession. Help is available.

finality

Dear Finality,

I agree although as a former therapist, what are some of the reasons women do this infatuation thing. My psychologist who I go to occasionally told me he had a femle client who was a professional in her field yet started thinking there was something between them. And he said there wasn't any such thing on his part.

peace,

Prosperity

Otoharo!

I am not sure what you are asking. Transference is a phenominon that occurs during therapy. that is complicated to explain. The cleint comes to get hlp with their feelings basically. Those feelings come also and are transfered to the therapist. The therapist often responds to those feelings more as a recognition of understanding what the client feels in their personal life, than as feelings meant especially for him. If the thereapist makes a personal response feelings wise, this is counter-transference. Is that what you are asking?

finality

Yup to the transference thing. That what must have happened with my former therapist.
As for asking the other for a coffee or a beer?
It's a big step to take.
Yes asking him for a healing might end up being a conflict, If we were good friends and a lot of trust there, maybe. But as a Healing as in a proffesional capacity, I can certainly feel that a conflict of ethics would arise.
For although I like the man, I can only be honest with him about my feelings and let him decide whether he can give me a healing or no.
My other option is to ask for a healing from another man who I don't fancy, but who I trust as a friend.
I'm confused If what I feel is real or just my imagination playing up big time.
Maybe its just that my heart is opening up and its all so overwhelming at the moment.
What type of thereapist deals with this sort of dilemma?
Thank you people for your views, they've helped, now I feel like I have a direction.
Nameste.

I'm assuming, jaguar, that you've meditated on this....

I'm pondering a lot at the moment.
I feel energised, is what I feel, the reiki I think is pushing me to explore these feelings and thoughts, that once I've kept in the dark.

roxy
Yes I think your right, It was a lovely feeling, to have that attention directed at me and the compassion I felt.

I asked your advice and now I'm going to act on it.

My thanks

Sláinte

Dear Jaquar,
Well at least your hormones are working and sexual attraction is not unnatural. Surrounding yourself and him in pink light may help as that is supposed to move the energy out of the sexual realm.
As someone suggested, I believe, that you could lightly tell him he's hot which may be true. Just expressing that may help relieve some sexual tension and you could both laugh about it..if it can be discussed before you make a Reiki appt. with him. I've heard other teachers tell me they had students that liked them sexually and if they wasn't their Reiki teacher they would consider it but there is that teacher student thing and a good teacher would not take advantage. By the way, do you not have a relationship at the moment?
peace,
Prosperity

No realationship.
I sent him a text, to ask for a healing.
He hasn't gotten back to me yet, but if not, then not. I accept it, I'll just put it down to an experience.
I'm not going to worry over much whether there is a realationship in the offing, I don't think at this time that I'd be able for it. So I'll settle for friendship.
It's a start.
I had a shiatsu session today, It went well, and although I felt a little of the same type of feelings surface, they weren't as overwhelming I'm just going to let the good feelings flow, not in any direction, but within.
I seem to hold on to much to these things, then they get stuck and I throw a wobbler. I'm feeling a bit calmer today.

Well I txtd the fella, but got no reply.
Thats telling me something, so I'm going to let it go.
This keeps recurring, but recently, I started getting shiatsu done and The same thing cropped up, but I realise, what it is, and it's nothing short of infatuation and a need for some nurturing. Maybe some transference and projecting thrown in for good measure. I'm such a goose. :o)
Having realised this, I can begin to not take it very seriously, and put it where it belongs: a psychological curiosity. Maybe now I can begin to work through it and also maybe grow up.
Its time.

Hey some Masters experience high sexual or life force energy
when they give treatments. The energy can be transmuted for doing the healing work.The flame is white turning to blue is what I was taught. The Dragon/Fire Energy of Reiki is sexual energy too. Isn't it all about intention?

Personally, I have a rule around attraction and clients.
I send male clients elsewhere if that energy is present.
I also let them know why. If this person is interested in you isn't he capable of asking you for coffee/dinner etc?

I give friend treatments in group settings never alone.
Exchange Nights/Training Events
This way there are no misunderstandings

I was also trained in Blue Matrix it's all about raising the
Kundalini Energy. Then moving it into healing energy too.

Are you sure your not just ready to get your second or having some other healing exchange that is natural between energy workers?

Listen to your own heart...What does it say?

Brightest Blessings
Breathe and Smile
Lucky you that you had a attraction
Good Luck

Mystical J

He called earlier about setting up an appointment. It would be awkward to continue with this, but I'm still confused.
He suggested I go to another for a healing, which makes sense since It's be awkward otherwise.
which I aquiesed to.
C'est le vie.