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Periodically a passage comes my way that is so powerful and so meaningful that it makes me want to stop and apply it to my life. Early in my studies I was told by my RM a saying that she used many times in dealing with people in every type of everyday relationship. I have found that it is most benificial when dealing with difficult people to stop, think of it, and proceed.

That saying is:

"When you love me the least is when I need you to love me the most......"

I used to be a very fast reacter, quite a mouth-piece, BR (before reiki) and usually when someone would attack me, I verbally let them have it.

This saying has saved many tongue thrashings!!

Does anyone have any words of wisdom they would like to share??

Love to all......Jasanine

Hello Jasanine,

I have actually heard that saying before and I think it is a wonderful way of dealing with situations. It reminds me of another saying which is:

"When dealing with yourself, think with your head. When dealing with others, think with your heart."

Emotions are precious, fragile things. We all have them and no one wants them to break. After all they are pretty hard to replace.

I am interested to hear what other people use for their inspirational sayings.

Peace and good healings

ebony

Hi, Ebony,
one of my favorite sayings is: "In a full heart there is room for everything & in an empty heart there is room for nothing".

peace, love & joy,
holobon

Hi Ebony.

Thank you for sharing.I love your saying, wish I would have read it before I went out tonight!! I requested a lady to"kindly" move at a concert tonight, and she sure had some inspirational sayings for me!!

Love to you......Jasanine

Hei Jasanine,
I have a good one, but have problems with applying it - good one as I can see that any time I stick to it - things work out much better than when I try to dictate my will to other people (I am good at that ;-( )
The following is a sort of version of the saying as the original writing was chinese (Lao'c) interpreted by a british psychologist Martin Buber, and finaly cited in Carl. R. Rogers's book (The way of being), that was translated into Czech. Now I am trying to undo the last bit and put it back to English - so I hope it will make sense:

"A developed person does not interfere in the lifes of beings, does not push his/her will on them, but helps all beings to their freedom. Through own unity (onnes) he shows the way to their own unity, freeing their nature and destiny, frees the Tao inside them."

Hope you will like it -
Jana

One of my favorite inspirational sayings is "Let Go and Let God". It is very simple but says so much.

Namaste

Bluemama

Greetings Jana

This is a GREAT saying..having read it several times to absorb it in the full, I am realizing how undeveloped I am!! (I'm a dictator too)Thank you for this tool, I am going to try to apply it.

I am trying to put together a personal collection of Words of Wisdom, so please feel free to jump in with any contributions!

Another one that allows me that "moment of Processing", that moment where you have to decide if you are going to take on anothers issues through conversation.I say it all the time to help me take a step back and not get involved......"If it's not my suitcase, I'm not carrying it!" It gives you that focal moment to realize that the situation really has nothing to do with you, unless, of course, you pick up the suitcase. That one really helps me to not involve myself...a tough practise for a dictator!!

Keep 'em comin'
Love Jasanine

Greetings Bluemama

What a wonderful saying to share...very inspiring...and very appreciated.

Love Jasanine

Jasanine,

/*\ Namaste :-}}

A Teacher once suggested that: no one else can do our "work" for us - nor we theirs.

:-}}

Reiki all around,

all blessings,

Firekeeper

I have been 'searching' how I feel about this for some time ....it is difficult not to push my will on to people when I am helping them (as I feel the right to do so)- but because my heart is telling me it is my duty to help them, there must be a third way - helping silently, by listening and letting them by finding a good listener listen to them selves speaking ....and in that way they get the feeling they are universaly accepted and can them selves organise their thoughts better. I have problems explaining this - it is well described in the 'Client centered therapy' books and thoughts produced by C.R.Rogers - a psychologist who is to my knowledge one of the few who successfully married psychology and "our world" and made the feeling of onennes and self acceptanceit accessible to the 'Muggles';-)) as well as us. If the things above are muddled - they in short mean: "Your heart will tell you the way."
Love
Jana

Dear Jasanine,

I would love to see a post on this subject every day..a little inspiration or thought to chew over & ponder.

Here is my contribution for today:

"Of all knowledge, the wise and the good seek most to know themselves"........Shakespeare

a good day to all,
holobon

Good day, Holobon and Greetings all,

I have a rather appropriate WOW for this Monday morning:

All motivation is self motivation.
Your family, your boss or your co-workers
can try to get your engine going, but until you decide
what to accomplish, nothing will happen.
-Wisdon,Inc (HarperCollins)

Love and Light....Jasanine

Happy Beginning of the Week!

" Never let yesterday's disappointments overshadow tomorrow's dreams"

What's in the past cannot be changed.

Let yesterday go far away,
and strive for a better tommorrow.

Peace and good healings

ebony

Dearest Ebony,

Thanks for sharing WOW, and great ones at that!!
Maybe Mondays should start off with "engine starters"just to get the week going.

Love and light...jasanine

Jasanine & Ebony,

If all Mondays started like this, maybe work wouldnt be so hard to face!!!

NAMste,
holobon

Dearest Holobon

Any suggestions for Tuesday????????

love jasanine

Dear Jasanine,

"As a white candle in a holy place, so is the beauty of an aged face"....Joseph Campbell.

I believe in respect for wrinkles!!!! Seriously, this catches my heart everytime I read it....

Namaste,
holobon

Dear Holobon
You brought a tear to my eye!!
When my mother passed away, I went to say my goodbyes, and there before me was a face I had seen a million times.

But, never, until that moment, did I see a beauty so deep it took my breath away. The beauty in those wrinkles told a lifes story, and as painful as that moment was, I will treasure it always.

Thanks for sharing....you brought a tear to my eye, but you also made my heart smile :):):)))

And its good to know I am gaining more respect each passing year!!

Love and light.......Jasanine

Dear Jasanine,

Words have power to sweep us to an honored place in our hearts...What a blessing to have had such an experience with your Mom....once, years ago, I looked at my mother's hand, all wrinkled & chapped with unpainted fingernails and no adornment other than a simple engagement ring & wedding band & was struck with the thought that there was no more beautiful hand in the world...There is something about the older folk that fills one's heart.

I have always been fascinated by the character that evolves over time in a human face. Many cultures revere the aged & look to them for wisdom & guidance. Our culture which honors youth has much to learn.....

peace, love & joy,
holobon

holobon,

/*\ Namaste :-}}

Your post is akin to an Ode to Geezers and Crones.

:-}}

Reiki all around,

all blessings,

Firekeeper

Dear Firekeeper,

HaHa....I do revere some Geezers & Crones...
and hope to make it there myself, one day ( FAR...FAR AWAY, of course!!)

Namaste,
holobon

Charlotte Bronte:
If we had no winter, the spring would not be so pleasant: if we did not sometimes taste of adversity, prosperity would not be so welcome.

Dearest Zizzr,

That is so true....for each , there is an opposite...without one the other would not exist...a good point to keep in mind!!

peace,love & joy,
holobon

Dear Zizzr and Holobon,
And for every action there is re-action, something to think about before we speak. Thanks for helping me remember that.

Memory.....such a fleeting thing.....good thing is i get to hide my own Easter eggs!!BAGL!!

Love and light jasanine

"It is the peculiar quality of a fool to perceive the faults of others and to forget his own".....Cicero

Wont even get into how often Ive had to remind myelf of this....

Namate,
holobon