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NEED HELP ON BLANCING LIFE AND UNDERSATNDING TRUE LOVE

itishri

Hi,

When one understands oneself, truly, one will understand true love when it embraces us.

Cheers,

RC

HOW DO WE UNDERSTAND M TIRED OF TRYING

itishri,

Hi,

So, you are giving up? I can only truly understand myself. No one can do that for me. If I stop trying I would be giving up on myself (a choice that is available, of course). Even a soul mate may not love us exactly as we wish to be loved but that does not diminish the relationship (and may be the source of important lessons).

:)

Cheers,

RC

ok i understood your point. I dont want to give up yet just feeling sack but only wants to go upwards

itishri,

Hi,

Perhaps if you requested some Reiki, some of our members would oblige and the energy could be used to help yourself along and to feel better.

:)

Cheers,

RC

Yeah that would be a nice thing I already feel better...... :)

Dear itishri.
What does true love mean to you?
Peace,
Prosperity

being there for each other and every1 u can without thinking of yours and mine but in a particular relatioship i always expect it back. That y i want to understand whether its love or some kind of addition or i do not know why.

Dear itishri,
The "expecting something" may need a little tweaking. A teacher taught to change our expectations to preferences. That way we won't be dissapointed if someone or some situation doesn't work out and also can be appreciative if it does. Whereas if you expect then you won't really appreciate someone or their actions that work in your favor as much if at all.
peace,
Prosperity

I am not sure if this will help but here it goes.

For a long time just like you described I longed for a Relationship in which someone and me could be there for each other. But In reality I had a lot of self healing to do untill I was ready for that. At the time and Untill fairy recently I felt like true unconditional love was not something that was possible for me, not only because I never felt it for someone in a Romantic fashion, but because I felt underserving to be loved. Then I began to heal and met people who were willing to love me, just the way I am , regardless of my emotional wounds and past self judgement. It was then that I found someone that untill this day I love and treasure with all my heart, and I dont care if my love for this person ever brings forth Romance, all I care is how I feel for this person and I care for this persons happiness and am Joyfull for every second I have with this person and am thankful for every bit of love I feel.

So how can this apply to you? perhaps you should take the time to learn what is holding you back not only from being loved by others , or even loving yourself( After all, healing begins with with yourself) What past thought patterns and emotions hold you back from experiencing true unconditional Love, a love that is so beautiful that you are happy simply to feel it, and perhaps to be loved by others. You simply have to be open to love and let love fill your life, without expectations. Perhaps you need time to heal( Just a thought, in the end only YOU know best what you need)

Anyway Time to once again step down from my soapbox.

"Love is born in fire,
its planted like a seed.
And love can't give you everything
but it gives you what you need,
and love comes when you are ready
and love comes when you are afraid
It will be your greatest Teacher
the best friend you have made"

From "Give yourself to Love" by Kate Wolf

In Light and Healing
ReikiDragon

Greetings - I am new to the board. Hope I can help a little from my own experience. What has helped me is to differentiate between romance and love. Love is given to every one and withheld from no one. Take your time to heal to get to that space - then romance is sure to come, and the way you want it to! Prayers to you....You are already love, itself!

Yammering advice:
Perhaps what you are calling true love isn't. Clingy, needy, crusty, dependent, jealous, abusive, if any of these can be applied to what you call love, then get a dog--they love to love like that.

There are many kinds of love, enjoy them for what they are, and don't get stuck on just one. Of course, the most important is to love yourself. I know, religious liars have all but murdered self-love out of existence--but god knows they tried their damndest. Point is if you don't love yourself, you won't experience love.

Darned good advice:
Have you learned how to work with "energies"?
If so, then run, sweep, breathe, fill yourself with the following energies:
>>>life, love, light, peace<<< [in]
<<<live, love, shine, peace>>>[out]

Your world will change.

If you don't know how to work with energies, then just try; however, it may help to get instruction. (Preferably not from a satanist/religious nut.)

a strong ship may sink
the memories live on
the days we are absent from sight; are the days we cherish the presence without physically sighting people , nature and all things on earth and beyond the planet
they have existed most of the time (whether we fall or are steady) and maybe if we are formed on solid foundations and trust then we just have to rebuilt our shelter and still be there... in thoughts and in actions ...etc

cheers for the days.....> when an encouragement is born when we seems to be losing motivations